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CORRESPONDENCE WITH AN INTERSEX PERSON OF FAITH 2019

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Thank you for sharing your sensitive personal story with us and thank you for your courage. First, I would like to ask if you would allow me to share your story with others. To me it is inspiring and I know others facing difficult situations in their lives, will also find it inspiring. Second, I would like you to email me at sexisscience@gmail.com. So we can correspond one on one.

I have been very vocal recently about the LGBT movement. I feel they have undermined the science and reality of intersex and the difficulties intersex persons experience. Physical or biological attributes are very different than the biological sex of who you sleep with, or the gender a person may identify as. I have received extensive criticism for this, but I remain true to the goals I originally established when I initiated this endeavor of the heart.

I quickly discovered the LGBT community were a significant obstacle in educating and informing the general public on the reality of the science of intersex. The LGBT groups would consistently glamorize and politicize the most serious issues. The recent national media attention given to transexuals because of the Jenner transformation has done little to help educate the public about intersex issues.

For an intersex person . . .  intersex biological transformation at birth, or later in life to counter a surgical procedure at birth . . . is critical to their lives. Transgender or transexual transformations can also be critical to a persons life that is not intersex. But equating transgender or transexual transformations to intersex transformations is disingenuous to the intersex community. Which is why I have aggressively demanded the LGBT community prioritize education of the science of intersex to all of their membership and supporters.

The other barrier we currently face has also been incited by the LGBT community. There is a strong push right now to declare only two sexes. I can fully understand how some may take this viewpoint. The extremes of gender ‘bending’ have caused a knee jerk reaction against any admonishment of gender variation. Completely contrary to everything I have been working toward. So, I have had to argue on public forums to open the eyes and minds of otherwise open minded individuals.

What was evident to me from the beginning, which seems to have been overlooked by others, is that we need those that are the most vocal and deterring when it comes to intersex education. These are the people that once converted, become our greatest allies. And in many instances these are the people that hold the purse strings. Which leads me to another criticism of the LGBT community. Some members are now very wealthy and include millionaires and maybe even billionaires. Yet we find very little funding at all, trickling in to educate and support intersex persons for their medical needs, to support their communities, or to fund public education. I have to ask why?

Hermaphrodites were historically very important in many cultures. I still consider those born with this unique biology to be very important. I had a discussion at a thrift store just a few days ago, where I ran into a man of God and his son. I pointed out how God is neither male nor female, yet God is both. I admire and I am honored by your faith. I don’t believe in coincidence, and God gives us all a mission whether we know it or not. Yours is Blessed and I again appreciate you sharing your life with us.

On a final note, we are working very hard on educating both medical professionals and the pubic on the cruelty of hasty surgical decisions made at birth without full consideration for the child and their later life. This will be ongoing and must be approached carefully. We know some surgeries are not necessary at all. In a few cases some surgery is necessary for health medical reasons. We must be clear where the division lines may be and carefully monitor where they are crossed.

I look forward to hearing more from you here and/or via email. Our website was recently hacked, but I hope to have it back up in the next few weeks. You can always visit the group I worked with to open the lines of communication for our video, UKIA (United Kingdom Intersex Association at UKIA.org). There are also now a growing number of support organizations around the world, many just in the past few years. We are making progress despite the obstacles. Keep the faith and Blessings to you every day!

Fernando

A SHORT ESSAY ON EDUCATION

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Education begins with teaching pre-K and kindergarten children how to communicate with each other. Teaching basic social communication skills is even more important than reading and math. The Lakota Tribes have a list of 12 values that should be taught to every one of our children from the moment they step into the educational system. These are values that have not changed in tens of thousands of years. They include Humility, Perseverance, Respect, Honor, Love, Sacrifice, Truth, Compassion, Bravery, Fortitude, Generosity and Wisdom.

We must learn to teach every child as an individual with individual strengths and weaknesses. Once a year is sufficient to test a student. We should nurture their strengths and their loves by guiding them to develop them. And we should gently reinforce their learning in the areas where they are not as strong. Education should be a choice of adventures, not a competition to subvert others.

Businesses should be investing in education at every grade level. Not as a way to advertise their business, but as a way to develop and recruit the very best talent in the field or area the business wants to grow. Higher education should not be just a ‘stepping stone’. It should be a long term investment for both the student and the business. We must look beyond the generic grade point average to examine individual strengths. Creating a tighter fit for both, the student developing their passion for a career, and the business developing the very best talent to assure a long term relationship.

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WHEN NOTHING IS EVERYTHING

‘There is Nothing in the Desert, And Every Man Needs Nothing’

 

The actual quote is from ‘Lawrence of Arabia’ and it reads, ‘There is nothing in the desert, and no man needs nothing’. It was recently used in the film ‘Prometheus’, from Ridley Scott. It’s a great line and very significant in the film. Where once again we witness the dangers of technology and the humans that create it. Mary Shelley warned of us how our passion for striving to be as powerful over others as God, could lead to our own self-destruction. But we don’t have to read ‘Frankenstein’. All we have to do is look around us every day. Man’s attempt to reach that divine plateau of knowledge, mimicking our own concept of ultimate power we have perceived as God, can be both a blessing and a curse. It is only by our own cautious manipulation of those great powers we have achieved, that we will control our own fate toward advancement or destruction.

Need I remind you of this as you stare at your computer screen? Or dabble with your phone? Or sit complacent for hours in front of your television? What I can remind you of . . . is how every technology is simply a tool. And like any tool, it can be used for good or for evil. A hammer or a wrench can build or fix the greatest of challenges, but they can also be used to strike the life of another living being.  And a tool is not a human being. We can use tools to improve the lives of other beings. But tools do not have a heart. They do not feel and they do not love. We often use tools to win the love of others; a new car, a new phone, a new toy. But are we giving with the assumption that the work involved to acquire and gift that tool to win someone else’s love, is equivalent to the love we gift as fellow humans? Is the material gift we give, equivalent to the love of our smile, our compassion, or most important, of our time?

Most of us do not live in a desert. We live in a world where the illusion of abundance surrounds us. An abundant illusion so perfectly manipulated, that we feel no remorse when discarding those things we no longer deem valuable. Our abundant world immediately offers a replacement. We can always buy a newer car, a smarter phone, or another plastic container of water; all of them disposable and replaceable. Of course, only if we happen to be lucky enough or wealthy enough to afford them. But where has our disposable existence of material objects led us? It has led us to another illusion. An illusion where we do not have to face what becomes of our disposable resource once we discard them. We are allowed to wear our blinders and walk away from the refuse of our own existence. There was a time when man’s only disposable waste was his own excrements, or the bones left behind after a meal. We were equivalent with all of life around us, because we shared the same requirements, and we left behind the same by-products. We weren’t leaving our discarded by-products strategically buried for future generations. We were simply returning them to the Earth, where they would recycle into the basic elements of the Earth.

We have learned to accept the illusion of abundance, surrounded by all those material possessions that provide us with the comforts we require. And so I journeyed to the desert. And it is here I realized . . . every man needs nothing. Without a relative perspective in our existence, we have no bearing. And without bearing, we have no existence. All of the material possessions in the world cannot provide the necessary direction for existence. This is the lesson Buddha learned from self-depravation. This is how he achieved enlightenment. There are two examples I will provide (although many others exist). The first example is the child born to wealth. Unlike his parent, who may have started with nothing and achieved great wealth, the child has only known wealth. An entire life will be wasted in a pursuit of happiness through material possessions. And although this person may achieve limitless joys in hedonistic exultation, there will always be an inescapable empty hollow within their lives. Without ‘nothing’, ‘something’ is worthless.

The second example is the starving artist. A master of their Art, but impoverished. In their barren material world, they can create masterpieces of painting, music, and literature. They have the perspective of ‘nothingness’. So to them, every meager possession is a possession of wealth. Here again, their life’s fate can move in either of three different directions. They might continue broke and desolate, creating magnificent works of art. And likely die broke and desolate, but a great artist. Or they can achieve wealth, and their lives will take one of two paths. Either they will lose their creative spirits and immerse themselves in their newly found material wealth. Or, if they are wise, they will continue to create art, but maybe not as passionate or inspired as before.

There are countless examples, every day, all around us, of both the wealth born child and the starving artist. And then there are the rest of us, somewhere in-between. Without knowing ‘nothing’, we will find nothing. And without finding nothing and knowing what we have found, we will not ever find anything else. I have found nothing in the desert. And in the desert I have found everything. I can now see that although I have had everything in my life, without finding ‘nothing’ in the desert, I would not know what it was that I had. I would not know what others do not see. And I would not be able to give you ‘nothing’. Knowing that it is the only ‘something’ I could ever give you, that will keep you nurtured and without thirst, in any desert.

 

“I have always loved the desert. One sits down on a desert sand dune, sees nothing, hears nothing. Yet through the silence something throbs, and gleams…”
― Antoine de Saint-ExupéryThe Little Prince

 

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